What makes a good life? Lessons from the longest study on happiness | Robert Waldinger


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What makes a good life? Lessons from the longest study on happiness | Robert Waldinger

What keeps us happy and healthy as we go through life? If you think it's fame and money, you're not alone – but, according to psychiatrist Robert Waldinger, you're mistaken. As the director of 75-year-old study on adult development, Waldinger has unprecedented access to data on true happiness and satisfaction. In this talk, he shares three important lessons learned from the study as well as some practical, old-as-the-hills wisdom on how to build a fulfilling, long life. TEDTalks is a daily video podcast of the best talks and performances from the TED Conference, where the world's leading thinkers and doers give the talk of their lives in 18 minutes (or less). Look for talks on Technology, Entertainment and Design -- plus science, business, global issues, the arts and much more. Find closed captions and translated subtitles in many languages at Follow TED news on Twitter: Like TED on Facebook: Subscribe to our channel:

Comments to the video: What makes a good life? Lessons from the longest study on happiness | Robert Waldinger

Jaap Ongeveer 6 hours ago
Let me refer to The Desiderata. A document I refer to frequently.
D Souza 6 hours ago
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若冰 钟 8 hours ago
Good relationships are very important ,but get away from any bad person who will harm you or make you unhappy. Just love who deserves to love and keep high quality of relationships with them.
LoL ReplayBaby 9 hours ago
My life goal is i want to have a family 2 to 3 children :) thats all i want
Luai Ballan 1 day ago
Success is nothing if you have no one to share it with
WEST TENNESSEE PREPPERS 2 days ago
the audience of men look like feminine fruitcakes.you got it all wrong
Dylan Rainbolt 3 days ago
Listening to this guys voice makes me happy.
sean craig 4 days ago
Sometimes i wonder if big business is telling us we need to be extroverts, have lots of friends and family, etc. You know why, because those activities make you spend more money vs being an introvert. Introverts hardly spend money and are usually very content. I see all the people commenting on youtube saying that they're introverts, and they're happy. So what gives? At my workplace, maybe 2% are extroverts, but all the commercials, sitcoms and movies will tell you otherwise. Einstein said 'success is to lead a quiet life'.
Анжелика Шереметьева 4 days ago
good!
flufinsky 4 days ago
Why only men?
J Roig 4 days ago
Interesting conclusion. But I am missing data on how much each aspect (social status, diet, relationships) contributes to a longer happier life. By this presentation it looks like that relationships contribute 100% to it. But I doubt it. And not everyone is capable of developing deep connections with other people, we should be able compensate it somehow.
J Roig 4 days ago
Good for those who were raised by good parents. My father was abusive, my mother pessimistc and overprotective, and my sister bullied me often and she still does sometimes (and she is 36 btw). It requires too much energy to fix so many rotten apples, including myself. I had a few good friends but work and girlfriends seems to be the priority for them.
Leon Ledergerber 5 days ago
i do believe that good realtionships are more important then money, humans are social beasts, we need other human beings in our life, you literally can die just because youre feeling lonely, but so many people say money cant buy you happiness, thats bullshit, i see money as a tool, a tool to build my life the way i want, to not be independt, and move free on this earth, to not chase money or stress about, to not let others influence my life, like it would be in a job, like it was actually, you guys should see money as a tool to get free and be independent. Whatever that might mean to you. ;)
Adel 5 days ago
Sorry I called you Waldenбerg
김준호 5 days ago
In my view, we are unaware of the fact that there is something that is more important and meaningful than gaining wealth and fame. This speech makes me realize once again how signficant it is to build good relationships with my family, friends and community. We are apt to ignore this truth, living our precious lives as if there is another chance to live an eternal life here on earth. I think I have to express my deepest gratitude to the professor for having shared the results of the research with us so that we may live a better life by replacing screen time with people time. Thanks
Inarat Aziz 5 days ago
For the first time I do not feel guilty about being an emotionally driven person. Thank you so much for this.
Inarat Aziz 5 days ago
This brought so many many tears to my eyes. What was profound was that we tend to be more focussed at complexities and sophistications while really everything needed to be happy is JUST SO SIMPLE.
Maureen Maura MaurEl Adara 6 days ago
There should be be people of all Nations Roots & Today
Jael vv 6 days ago
What keeps men happy, is basically what you just said. Cool. 😾
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Nyame Music Videos 7 days ago
Happieness comes when you realise just how beautifully you have been gifted, you trully are a gift its knowimg the good and the bad its knowing where your faith lies, people grow up with certain energy givers as in food, people, money all is exterior all is given to us and this is not infinit if you wish to fine devine existance then you must suffer you must suffer to the point where you have no choice but to believe in your self with out believing in your self all will seem grim I can now move with my head held high and knowing I am in control of my life but I know now life isnt meant to be controlled its meant to be tressured as if it will be the last time you have to make a difference for you and your loving planet that tressures you in return we trully are a 🎁
Shanu Vk 7 days ago
I thought gratitude is the secret of good life.
Saurabh Jadhav 7 days ago
Loneliness is blessing Only this factor show us value of relationship,and also gives the right path for spirituality
Adnan Khan 7 days ago
Strange. Shouldn't relationship with God be a reason for happiness?
Y Salem كلب 8 days ago
''Whoever would like to see his provision expanded and his life extended, let him maintain his ties of kinship.'' The holy Prophet Muhammed ppuh
Tongpeleng 8 days ago
Good relationship is hard to find, even though everybody like to keep it. Love, Money and relationship are one. Agree?
James Hutchings 8 days ago
How do they know that making X choice makes you happy? Why couldn't it be that depressed people tend to make choice X?
Baby Whale Crypto 8 days ago
Easy - never be a slave for someone else.
Auntie Rose 9 days ago
Health is the first wealth. No health, no life to speak of.
Auntie Rose 9 days ago
My health improved dramatically after I cut off my parents. They were a big reason that caused my chronic health issues, I spend little time with relatives, too much drama usually. Just my husband , couple of close friends and neighbors. I value my privacy and personal time a great deal.
Auntie Rose 9 days ago
We are all born with inner guidance. Spend time with it and let it guide you through your journey.
Kyle C 9 days ago
Keys to happiness: make money if you have the ability to do so. If you don’t have the ability to make money get a job where you can have a work / life balance. Don’t depend on other people , if you are in a dependent/ toxic relationship- GET OUT! Exercise , eat healthy & take care of your body. Push yourself to do new things.
Pendrym 9 days ago
Just a scam, they did not make any research at all. The lesson is just simple wisdom
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Ahmad Udhy 9 days ago
thanks for the lesson sir, you prove the reason that have been i believe. material does not have a great impact on feeling happy, material will only create conflict. but a healthy relationship will create sincerity, and it's worth striving for.
Palanero 007 10 days ago
nice
Syed Shah 10 days ago
There are over 7 billion people and still cant even get a text back? Guess, I'm living a shorter life!
Pioneer 37 10 days ago
This is why Cinema was created.to create a community among ppl.words cant describe this video
lowgrasswhite 10 days ago
I can see this guy is passionate about his new-found truth. But really man, we're not all the same. I quit my first job three years ago partly because it was too social, and i was suffocating there. Ever since, i have no contact with people outside of my own house, and I'VE NEVER BEEN HAPPIER. (Now i work on my own.) The way this guy presents relationships is as if they were as vital as air to breathe. The way i see my solitude is that finally nobody is wasting my time with small talk, nobody is nagging me to go out, and i'm the master of my time. I'm filling my life with activities that are important to /me/, instead of running around trying to please others. I don't care how many men (not women, shamefully), this study involved. I know where my happiness lies, and it's not with other people.
adday f 10 days ago
Great !
Anas NZ 11 days ago
I feel like this man can live a hundred years with all the positive thoughts
Ricko 769 11 days ago
Who else could feel all the women being triggered when he said the study only followed men?
Ricko 769 11 days ago
This study seems like a huge waste of money. When your conclusion comes from a quote from a guy older than the study itself, that says it all.
Craig Williams 12 days ago
I had to laugh because this video was listed as a suggestion, with the title abbreviated as What makes a good life? Lessons from the longest stud Well, I'm sure that the longest stud could make life good for plenty of people.
rararroro 12 days ago
Freedom should come first over everything else. no freedom you are worse off than being dead.
wedoebe 12 days ago
WOW! WOW! This is so true; I can attest to this.
Epic GROWTH 13 days ago
What an awesome video and a beautiful topic. I really believe following proven techniques can help so I recently made a video too on: 6 Proven techniques for Happiness. Checkout -
getredytagetredy 14 days ago
Ted is without a doubt the premier platform for brainwashed.lied to.sleeping soundly.cognitive dissonant , still watches TV, and believes it , crowd anywhere.
inner aesthetics 14 days ago
I have to say that meeting my wife and letting go of my issues into her love has brought a light to my life that I can't describe without tears streaming down. The sheer happiness and joy that I feel from deep within every day that we welcome each other home is something I deeply hope that YOU will get to experience. But to get to this point, please take a good look at yourself and let go of issues that keep you from opening your heart to the ones you love. The amount of love you get back will blow your mind into your heart.
Shannon Callaghan 7 days ago
inner aesthetics 💕
Rebellious Amvs 15 days ago
I agree with the results but it always depends on what kind of relationship you have with others. Negative people drag you down so don’t let them in but instead get close with the ones that support you and strive to better themselves as well. 🙌🏻
Jovial Jibber Jabber 15 days ago
Being alone and being lonely are different. You can feel lonely when in a relationship. Peace and quiet is invaluable for mental well-being. Where there are no distractions, interruptions, meaningless arguments, an environment where one's true potentials can grow and flourish No amount of attention and/or money can make another person happy.
Zawsze Gubiła Wiatr 16 days ago
11:28 Gupta wants to kill him
Darlene Laski 16 days ago
This is depressing me. I have no one in my life and haven't had for years. Not even a needy cat.
Brenda Clark 16 days ago
This is an amazing longitudinal study.
Jessamy Miller 17 days ago
Eye opening..... Thank you for the wisdom.
Grain Of Rice 18 days ago
Are you gonna pull a Peter Mckinnon and down the line just ignore the three minutes all together hahahaha jk jk Always fun to work with the RGB splits
fetzcou 18 days ago
Nice one. Guy with glasses who doesn't smile at 5:12 is definitely Harvard's :)
Y Thi Nguyen 18 days ago
I know, but how i can extend and keep in touch my relationships?
Jakub Scherhaufer 20 days ago
4:25 -body once told me the world is gonna roll me.
Purez Entity 20 days ago
I have a system, that solve this solution and many life’s challenging situation. I had apply TEDX 3 years in a row, but I got turn down. So I gave up applying for it. May be its not my time.
RICHIZ 20 days ago
i need to find a girl e create a good healthy relationship
Christine Deepa 20 days ago
None of your studies can be true. Your prejudices rule it's all lies. Stop your irresponsible behaviour on humans. How would it be if I studied you and a bunch of yacks laugh making you unsacred. Did not God give boundaries to be respected. Didn't God allow life from stone or leaf to technology and digital. And how dare you portray a person as great life or lesser. You are such filth. I find it very difficult to see you a great person. Please don't exhalt nonsense. Relationship is given by God. The ones who stuck and lived fruitful was because they had standard given by God. And knew only those gave life. The beautiful truth, if trampled you have not only been killing but will not stop. If only studies never existed, yet life would have all the enhancement. But without gossips and abuses.
T.K. 21 days ago
an active and ongoing study that started 75 years ago ?! goodness gracious , that's impressive !. I can barely stick to something 21 days
Jeroen Doclo 22 days ago
I think it is a pitty that such a long study is brought up in a simple way like this. They had to find some other conclusions in their thousands pages of research, right? I thought the video was interesting and probably he has a big point, but he did not nuance a lot. Also, I am questioning if cutting of 'unhappy' friends or people you are not that close to is good. Because I prefer embracing people who are in difficulties.
Sean's Myth 22 days ago
I clicked on this video because the thumbnail read What makes a good life Lessons from the longest stud. and I was curious.
Alvin Soto 22 days ago
I am alone.
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अजबदेश की गजबकहानी 23 days ago
Its the condition of the mind. Not anything else.
Olamilekan Ojosipe 24 days ago
The simple answer to happiness is loving others as yourself. No need for any experiments. This is what the world lacks.
W I P G W Speak Life 26 days ago
Absolutely LOVE this!
Turi Madagwa 27 days ago
Good relationship really makes us happy we should strive to make more good relationships
Jakkrapat Khiawdee 27 days ago
More than money, I want a good girlfriend who live with me the whole life. We want a warm family with a lovely kid. We help each other to make money. We can get through any difficult situation. She's the only one. Without her, how can I survive myself? Sometimes I need someone to push me, to support me.
Stefano Canestrelli 27 days ago
I dont agree with many things of what he says in this video. For exemple “ life is longer if we have good relationships”
Edouard Wesley 28 days ago
He was so clever and careful but now the human saw him through and share all the information to break his career up. Isolation is easy to be cheated.
Mr Persevere 28 days ago
The key part for me is that the studies participants were ASKED. Who's to know if they were being 100% truthful in thier responses!???????????????????????????? Thumbs down here - sorry!
you can't leave this empty 29 days ago
Stop showing the audience. It's so annoying.
n pa 29 days ago
No other happiness than peace.
Anna Helena 29 days ago
Guys guys guys remember that alone and lonely are two different things, some people are perfectly content being with themselves and if that makes you happy and you feel like it's your thing, you do you!
TianYi Chang 29 days ago
“if you think money can’t buy happiness, you don’t know where to shop”
Bizhan Nero 29 days ago
It’s better to live alone rather than being hurt and broken!
Fumblyfingers 1 month ago
Quality.not quantity is what matters. True
Marvah Khan 1 month ago
Amazing!
Sajad Saifi 1 month ago
It was inspiring speech. Without having a good relationship the life will be meaningless.
Victoria Bascon 1 month ago
Interesting research. May I ask though, how did this research define good relationship ? And since this is a part survey-type of research, it's also interesting to know how much are the outliers , the physically healthy people with bad relationship and vice versa.
George Stobbart 1 month ago
Stay single guys, don't fall for it!!!!!!!! Listen to tom leykis, replicant fish, howard dare, sandman, educate yourself. Go M G T O W :)
George Stobbart 1 month ago
M G T O W makes me happy everyday <3
boitahaki 1 month ago
I remember years ago when I avoided alcohol and drugs but didn't avoid lonliness.
Maddox Bromley 1 month ago
Idk about that. I think if you are an introverted dude then heavy socialization is very stressful and unhealthy. My socialization consist of my wife and that's about it. I am more than happy with that. Nothing puts me at ease more than sitting alone and listening to the birds and the wind. To say that socialization is the key to a long and happy life is a generalization most likely done by an extrovert
bebosystem83 1 month ago
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bebosystem83 1 month ago
A small lesson by our prophet Mohammad peace upon him over 1400 years ago , not just 75 years , the results are the same, no one can handle hate for long time.
Life IsGreen 1 month ago
Simple life!
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Kami Nelson 1 month ago
One thing I found interesting was when he said his fellow researchers would call up the men, now in their 80's and ask them if it would be okay if they sent them a survey of the life, the men from Boston said: Why do you want to study me? My life is not that exciting. While the men from Harvard never said such.
Tai Nguyen 1 month ago
only is Buddha,
YS Sun 1 month ago
Good relationships depend a lot on luck. Finding good people is often harder than making more money.
Victoria Bascon 1 month ago
You've got a point there. Sometimes, it's all about luck or the lack of it.
Amanda Jones 1 month ago
This was beautiful!
Judas Mlengos 1 month ago
This man has a default smile😊
preety 123 1 month ago
very nice
Maria Makinen 1 month ago
Live my life n you will know.
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